Your first placement as a foster carer can be a mix of excitement, nervousness and learning. Whether you’re preparing for it or reflecting on it, here’s an overview of what to expect:
Matching Process
• Once you are approved we will work closely with you to get to know the child or children we should be considering for you. At Fitzgerald, all referrals are considered by the managers and your supervising social worker, who will know you best.
• Local Authorities are responsible for deciding which family is right for the children they place, however as an independent fostering agency we retain the right to decide whether or not we put carers forward. A well-matched placement forms the basis for stability for a child and this is a key value of the Fitzgerald Way
• If we think we have a good ‘match’ for your family, we’ll gather as much information as possible to share with you. This includes considering with you how the child may present given their lived experiences and how you’ll approach each aspect of their care. Only if you’re in full agreement will we put you forward as an option.
Things to consider before every placement
Preparation
• Prepare your home (bedroom, safety checks, toiletries, clothing).
• Emotionally prepare everyone in your household for a possible arrival, discuss anything they may need to be aware of to ensure everyone feels comfortable.
Day of Arrival
• Some children arrive with just a few belongings, others have much that you may need to keep safe for them. Usually a Social Worker would bring them, however sometimes a family member may drop them off.
First Interactions Are Key
• Stay calm, warm, and low-pressure.
• Think about who is home and introduce people gradually, so as not to overwhelm them.
• Offer food, a tour of the home, and space if needed.
• Avoid bombarding them with questions.
The Child’s Perspective
• They may be scared, withdrawn, angry, or confused.
• Don’t take behaviour personally—many young people are reacting to trauma and uncertainty.
• Simple routines, consistency, and kindness go a long way.
First Few Days
• Keep Things Simple: Don’t plan too many outings or changes right away.
• Establish Routines: Mealtimes, bedtime, and school prep help create security.
• Communicate with your Support Team: Keep your social worker in the loop and ask for advice.
What Foster Carers Often Feel
• Emotional Rollercoaster: It’s normal to feel overwhelmed or unsure.
• Protective & Empathetic: You may quickly feel a bond—or it may take time.
• Reflective: Many carers learn a lot about themselves during their first placement.
Tips from Experienced Foster Carers
• “Listen more than you talk.”
• “Don’t expect gratitude—it’s not about that.”
• “Take care of yourself too.” (Rest, seek support, use respite when needed.)
• “Be ready for surprises.” Every child is different, and no two placements are alike.
